Marriage counselling online
Often free, always anonymous and whenever it suits you.
Here you will find counselling centres and professionals for questions about marriage. When you argue a lot, have grown apart or have been through a hard time. You can come alone or as a couple, by video or in writing. A pseudonym is all you need.
In danger right now? Emergency number 112. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), day and night: 0800 111 0 111.
Does this sound familiar?
- You only talk about appointments, children and bills.
- Every argument goes the same way, and in the end you both go quiet.
- After a baby, a move or a loss, a lot has changed between you.
- One of you has turned to someone else.
- You wonder whether you are still right for each other.
- You want to change something but don't know how to bring it up.
Almost every marriage goes through phases like these. The fact that you are thinking about it shows that you care about each other. Counselling helps you start talking again, whatever happens in the end.
What happens in counselling
A professional listens to you, or to both of you, without taking sides. You look at what connects you and what you already handle well. Then you work on the points where you keep getting stuck. You decide the topic and the pace.
How it works
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Choose a centre or counsellor
You can see who offers counselling: training, focus areas, languages and how the person works. Many centres serve your town, some serve all of Germany.
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Book an appointment or write first
Book a first session by video. In the form, you briefly say what it is about. Or write a message first.
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Your own room
Messages, appointments and the link to the video session are all in one place. You can get back in at any time, from your phone too.
Who is counselling right now
Frequently asked questions
Can I come on my own?
Yes. Many people start on their own. You get clear about what you want, and you can carry on as a couple later if you both want to.
How does marriage counselling work as a couple by video?
The easiest way is to sit together in front of one device, with headphones or a speaker. Each counsellor profile shows how the centre works.
Does counselling decide whether we stay together?
You decide that. Counselling helps you see more clearly what you want and treat each other fairly.
What does counselling cost?
At most counselling centres, nothing. You can give them money voluntarily, and it makes no difference to your counselling. Independent counsellors charge a sliding-scale fee: the first session is free, after that you pay 60, 90 or 120 euros after each session and choose the amount yourself. Each counsellor profile shows what applies.
How anonymous am I really?
On the platform, people only know you by your pseudonym. An email address for reminders is optional. During a video session, the video service sees technical data such as your IP address. If you give the centre money, it sees the name on your card. The platform always tells you about this beforehand.
Who will counsel me?
Professionals from counselling centres or in private practice. They come from social work, education, psychology or a similar profession. Their qualifications are checked before approval. Each counsellor profile shows how the person works.
How quickly will I get a reply?
There is no fixed response time. Your counsellor replies as soon as they can. You book a fixed appointment directly on the counsellor profile. The platform is not an emergency service. If you are in acute distress, call the Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line) or, in an emergency, 112.
Which languages can I get counselling in?
That depends on the counsellors. Right now counselling is available in German. In the directory you can filter by language.
Do I have to start with a video session?
No. You can also write first. Messages go back and forth in your room, without a fixed appointment. What else a counsellor offers is shown on their counsellor profile.
Marriage counselling is your field?
Counselling centres and professionals in private practice get their own page here, appointment booking and a separate room with video and whiteboard for each client. All for €15 per counsellor per month.
If things are too much right now
This platform is not an emergency service. If you don't know what to do any more or are thinking about suicide, call now. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), free and day and night: 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222. In an emergency: 112.