Online counselling for men.
Often free, always anonymous and whenever it suits you.
Here you will find counsellors who know what men go through. Separation, fatherhood, anger and exhaustion, and anything that is too much right now. You write when you have time, or you talk by video. A pseudonym is all you need.
In danger right now? Emergency number 112. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), day and night: 0800 111 0 111.
Does this sound familiar?
- At work you stay calm and smart. At home you are on edge and lose it.
- You get loud and angry, and five minutes later you are annoyed with yourself.
- You say “all good” and disappear to the toilet with your phone.
- You wake up at night and your mind keeps going round in circles.
- Since the separation, you see your children less than you want to.
- One beer after work turns into two or three.
- At the weekend, one joint is no longer enough to wind down.
- And who are you supposed to talk to about it?
Many men know moments like these. Often they show how much matters to you: your children, your relationship, your work. It is not only down to you that things are hard right now. And you don't have to wait until things really blow up.
What happens in counselling
You talk to a professional from social work, education or psychology who works a lot with men. First you look at what gives you strength. Then you sort out what is hard right now and find a small next step. You decide the topic and the pace.
- “I'll sort it out myself.”
- You have probably done that many times. Getting support is a skill too. In counselling, someone who knows many situations like yours thinks things through with you. You decide what you take away from it.
- “I don't need therapy.”
- Counselling is for crises, conflicts and decisions. You talk about your everyday life and what you want to change. There are no diagnoses here. If you need more, your counsellor will help you find the right support.
- “Talking won't help anyway.”
- You get your thoughts in order and a concrete next step. Many people notice what is really on their mind just by writing it down. After the first session, you decide whether to carry on.
- “I don't have time for this.”
- No travel, no waiting room. Write whenever it suits you, even late in the evening. A video session usually lasts 50 minutes.
- “I lost my temper. Can I still come?”
- Yes. You are responsible for what happened. But you don't have to deal with it alone. Counsellors who focus on violence talk openly about what happened and work with you so that it doesn't happen again.
Who counselling is for
For men who have more on their plate right now than is good for them. Whether you are in the middle of a crisis or have been dealing with something for a while. Choose what it is about.
- Separation When the relationship ends, your living situation changes and the children move between two homes. 1 counsellor
- Fatherhood When a child is on the way, the role is new or you realise what kind of father you want to be. 1 counsellor
- Anger and stress When you get loud faster than you want to and the pressure from work and family never lets up. 1 counsellor
- Violence When you have used violence, are afraid you might, or are experiencing violence yourself.
- Addiction When alcohol, gaming or other things take up more space than you would like.
- Exhaustion When you are just getting by and even the weekend is no longer enough. 1 counsellor
How it works
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Choose a counsellor
In the directory you can see who offers counselling: training, focus areas, languages and how the person works. Choose whoever appeals to you.
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Book an appointment or write first
Book a first session by video. Or write a message first if that feels easier.
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Your own room
Messages, appointments and the link to the video session are all in one place. You can get back in at any time, from your phone too.
Who is counselling right now
See all counsellors (1) Centres in your town
- Free or on a sliding scaleUsually free at counselling centres. With independent counsellors, the first session is free. After that you pay 60, 90 or 120 euros per session and choose the amount yourself. This is clearly stated on every counsellor profile.
- AnonymousA pseudonym and a password are all you need. No real name, no phone number, no email address. Your counsellor only knows your pseudonym too.
- Verified professionalsA counsellor profile only appears once the qualifications have been checked.
- ConfidentialThe platform operator cannot see any content. Emails only remind you of appointments and never say what they are about.
- Data in GermanyThe servers are in Germany. Rooms are deleted after they are closed.
- No ads or trackingNo advertising, no trackers, no ratings of people.
Frequently asked questions
What does counselling cost?
At most counselling centres, nothing. You can give them money voluntarily, and it makes no difference to your counselling. Independent counsellors charge a sliding-scale fee: the first session is free, after that you pay 60, 90 or 120 euros after each session and choose the amount yourself. Each counsellor profile shows what applies.
How anonymous am I really?
On the platform, people only know you by your pseudonym. An email address for reminders is optional. During a video session, the video service sees technical data such as your IP address. If you give the centre money, it sees the name on your card. The platform always tells you about this beforehand.
Who will counsel me?
Professionals from counselling centres or in private practice. They come from social work, education, psychology or a similar profession. Their qualifications are checked before approval. Each counsellor profile shows how the person works.
How quickly will I get a reply?
There is no fixed response time. Your counsellor replies as soon as they can. You book a fixed appointment directly on the counsellor profile. The platform is not an emergency service. If you are in acute distress, call the Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line) or, in an emergency, 112.
Which languages can I get counselling in?
That depends on the counsellors. Right now counselling is available in German. In the directory you can filter by language.
Do I have to start with a video session?
No. You can also write first. Messages go back and forth in your room, without a fixed appointment. What else a counsellor offers is shown on their counsellor profile.
Do you counsel men?
Counselling centres and professionals in private practice get their own page in the directory, appointment booking and a separate room with video and whiteboard for each client. All for €15 per counsellor per month.
- Your own counsellor profile with photo, focus areas and languages
- Appointment booking for first sessions, also for men without real names
- One room for each client with messages, appointments and your links
- Two-factor sign-in with a password and a code from an app
- Your centre stays visible with legal notice, privacy notice and logo
If things are too much right now
This platform is not an emergency service. If you don't know what to do any more or are thinking about suicide, call now. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), free and day and night: 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222. In an emergency: 112.
If you are experiencing violence: Hilfetelefon Gewalt an Männern (German helpline for men), free and anonymous, 0800 1239900. Monday to Thursday 8 am to 8 pm, Friday 8 am to 3 pm. More at maennerhilfetelefon.de.