Couples counselling online
Often free, always anonymous and whenever it suits you.
Here you will find professionals who support couples, married or not, newly in love or together for years. When you are going round in circles, you miss being close or a breach of trust stands between you. You can come alone or as a couple. A pseudonym is all you need.
In danger right now? Emergency number 112. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), day and night: 0800 111 0 111.
Does this sound familiar?
- You live side by side like flatmates.
- Little things turn into big rows.
- One of you wants more closeness, the other more space.
- You stopped talking about sex a long time ago.
- After a breach of trust, you don't know if you can forgive.
- You want a child, to move in together or to get married, and you don't agree.
Many couples reach points like these. Taking a close look is a good start. In counselling, you find a way of talking to each other again.
What happens in counselling
A professional listens to you, or to both of you, without taking sides. You look at what you value in each other and what you already handle well. Then you work on the places where you keep getting stuck. You decide the topic and the pace.
How it works
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Choose a centre or counsellor
You can see who offers counselling: training, focus areas, languages and how the person works. Many centres serve your town, some serve all of Germany.
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Book an appointment or write first
Book a first session by video. In the form, you briefly say what it is about. Or write a message first.
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Your own room
Messages, appointments and the link to the video session are all in one place. You can get back in at any time, from your phone too.
Who is counselling right now
Frequently asked questions
What is the difference from marriage counselling?
Hardly any. Couples counselling is for all couples, married or not. Many centres offer both.
My partner doesn't want to come. What now?
Come on your own. When one person changes something, the relationship often changes too. Your partner can still join later.
Is couples counselling also for same-sex couples?
Yes. Counselling is there for all couples.
What does counselling cost?
At most counselling centres, nothing. You can give them money voluntarily, and it makes no difference to your counselling. Independent counsellors charge a sliding-scale fee: the first session is free, after that you pay 60, 90 or 120 euros after each session and choose the amount yourself. Each counsellor profile shows what applies.
How anonymous am I really?
On the platform, people only know you by your pseudonym. An email address for reminders is optional. During a video session, the video service sees technical data such as your IP address. If you give the centre money, it sees the name on your card. The platform always tells you about this beforehand.
Who will counsel me?
Professionals from counselling centres or in private practice. They come from social work, education, psychology or a similar profession. Their qualifications are checked before approval. Each counsellor profile shows how the person works.
How quickly will I get a reply?
There is no fixed response time. Your counsellor replies as soon as they can. You book a fixed appointment directly on the counsellor profile. The platform is not an emergency service. If you are in acute distress, call the Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line) or, in an emergency, 112.
Which languages can I get counselling in?
That depends on the counsellors. Right now counselling is available in German. In the directory you can filter by language.
Do I have to start with a video session?
No. You can also write first. Messages go back and forth in your room, without a fixed appointment. What else a counsellor offers is shown on their counsellor profile.
Couples counselling is your field?
Counselling centres and professionals in private practice get their own page here, appointment booking and a separate room with video and whiteboard for each client. All for €15 per counsellor per month.
If things are too much right now
This platform is not an emergency service. If you don't know what to do any more or are thinking about suicide, call now. Telefonseelsorge (German crisis line), free and day and night: 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222. In an emergency: 112.